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 Does happiness depend on how much effort you put into finding it?

Happiness is not something we find, genuine happiness is what we create - alone or with others.

How can you do this? Here are some steps that will lead you to happiness and fulfillment.

• Do the seemingly little things you love to do that make you happy. In reality, these are the big things. - Observe the leaves moving in the wind, a cloud passing by, breathing in the fresh air, walking along a beautiful place, having a good conversation, enjoying the feeling of a warm hug, having a cup of tea, the flight of a bird, the warm water of a bath or a hot shower. Find your happy moments and create them daily through awareness. What made you happy as a child? Start there. People don’t change at their core.

• To be able to do this we have to develop awareness to be in the moment and fully soak up experiences with an open heart, eyes, ears, touch, smell, sensitivity, mind, and soul. It means having empathy and kindness not only with others but with ourselves first.

• Self-regulating - learn how to regulate yourself, your mind and body and more, breathing in the moment, without leashing or acting out, blaming, or projecting. This is not easy but it can be learned how to do it. There is a system to it in how we can do this. If you would like to learn more details, send me a message.

• Take care of yourself - your mind, your body, your feelings, your own value- and belief system, your legacy, how you are connected to others, your business, your finances. To be able to do this, we need to keep learning, growing, and expanding according to the changes in life and it’s seasons.

• Happiness comes with taking actions, being in charge of the outcomes we pursue, and living life according to our needs, being authentic. We can’t give from an empty cup.

• Find genuine people you want to share your life with - if you can’t find any in certain moments, learn to walk the path alone, becoming and being whole. Once you are in a good place, you will attract the right people to share your joy with them.

• Happiness comes from trust. Trusting and believing in life, in good, in something bigger than ourselves, focusing on the best possible outcome, and taking consistent actions towards it.

• Happiness is the feeling of being seen, heard, appreciated and acknowledged. Before we can receive it, we have to be able to give it. We can’t give something we have never experienced. - Look for circumstances, people, and environments where you are seen, heard, and appreciated. If that is not the case where you are at, look for and go to a more appropriate place and environment to be in. Go where you are treated best. As we grow and evolve, these might be different places and environments according to our life stages and preferences.

• Create the life you enjoy living. From the smallest of actions to the biggest of decisions.

• Happiness is not a passive state that we wait for to happen, we create it daily, through making decisions and taking actions from a point of awareness and kindness with ourselves. Only then we become able to truly care for others best interest without self-interest from a place of inner peace and abundance. We don’t use them as crutches but are able to genuinely share a life with others.

• Gratefulness for what we do have leads to inner peace, joy, and happiness. If we can see, hear, walk, talk, function and are healthy, much has already been given to be grateful for. If we have a solid roof over our head, food on the table, a bed to sleep in, clean clothes on our body, and shoes on our feet, we are better off than a large percentage of the world population. Let this sink in.

• Know that nothing lasts forever - live the moments and if they do not make you happy, change and take action.

All this might seem like a lot of work - it is. Self-development is not easy nor comfortable.

Happiness is not a consistent state of mind - it is creating experiences that we truly enjoy living for ourselves and others.

@Mr Modhu.